Things to consider if you are in a violent relationship
- When an argument occurs avoid rooms with no exits (bathroom) or rooms with weapons (kitchen).
- Make a list of safe people to contact.
- Keep your cell phone on you.
- Memorize all important numbers.
- Establish a code word to use with friends when you're in danger.
- Think about what you will say to your partner if they become violent.
- Remember you have the right to live without fear and violence.
- Keep copies of important documents at a safe place (e.g. your friend's house).
- Keep a bag of belongings stored at a friend's house.
- Take any medications with you if fleeing.
Things to consider after leaving a violent relationship
- Change your phone number.
- Screen calls.
- Save and document all contact, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the abuser.
- Change locks if the abuser has a key.
- Avoid staying alone.
- Plan how to get away from confrontations.
- Meet the abuser in public if you must (for example, for child visitation).
- Vary your routine.
- Notify school and work contacts that you may be at risk from the abuser.
- Call the Help Line at (250) 627-8588.