The Cycle of Abuse
Abuse
An abusive partner lashes out with hurtful or violent behaviour toward their partner. The abuser’s intent is to gain power and control over the relationship.
Guilt
The abuser feels guilt for the abuse.
Excuses
The abuser find reasons to excuse their behaviour and/or blame their partner for the abuse.
“Normal” Behaviour
The abuser does everything they can to regain control. The abuser may act as if nothing has happened, beg, use charm, or promise the abuse will not happen again. This peaceful “honey-moon” phase may give the abused hope that abuse will not reoccur.
Set-up
The abuser creates a situation where they can justify abusing their partner again.
(Adapted from www.helpguide.org, Domestic Violence and Abuse)
An abusive partner lashes out with hurtful or violent behaviour toward their partner. The abuser’s intent is to gain power and control over the relationship.
Guilt
The abuser feels guilt for the abuse.
Excuses
The abuser find reasons to excuse their behaviour and/or blame their partner for the abuse.
“Normal” Behaviour
The abuser does everything they can to regain control. The abuser may act as if nothing has happened, beg, use charm, or promise the abuse will not happen again. This peaceful “honey-moon” phase may give the abused hope that abuse will not reoccur.
Set-up
The abuser creates a situation where they can justify abusing their partner again.
(Adapted from www.helpguide.org, Domestic Violence and Abuse)